Children – our source of joy and pain. Still, bringing up children is one of the greatest challenges in life.
Parenting is about loving and caring for your children. It should also be consistent and unconditional. These qualities will give your children a sense of security and belonging.
Love and faithfulness between spouses is equally important. This gives your children the opportunity to see the warmth and tenderness in your marital relationship. This will set an atmosphere which encourages the same kind of affection in the hearts and minds of your children.
Tips to parents to bring up mentally healthy children:
- DISCIPLINE CONSTRUCTIVELY
Constructive discipline gives children clear direction by setting and adhering to standards of behavior.
- SPEND TIME TOGETHER
Spending quality time with your children is one of the most precious gifts you can give in raising them for their all around development. Spend time playing, communicating, in family activities, outings and holidays. Quality time spent earns great rewards in love, stability and family togetherness.
- TEACH RIGHT FROM WRONG
Teaching your children basic values and manners will help them get along better in society. Assign them chores and other responsibilities at home. Talk to them about treating others with kindness, respect and honesty. Above all, set a personal example yourself.
- DEVELOP MUTUAL RESPECT
Parents should insist that all family members treat each other with respect. This means you should be willing to apologize to your children when you are wrong, show an active interest in their activities and avoid favoritism. In return, you should expect respectful behavior from your children.
- FOSTER INDEPENDENCE
One of the most difficult aspects of bringing up children is letting go. By gradually allowing them freedom and control over their own lives, you will gain their affection and respect.
- OFFER GUIDANCE
Children will welcome your guidance when they have problems, provided it is offered and not forced. Offer valuable gifts like your opinions, feelings and experience.
Parents should listen to their children from their earliest years. This means giving individual attention and putting aside one’s own thoughts and beliefs in trying to understand the child’s point of view.
- TEND TO PERSONAL AND MARITAL NEEDS
Finally, a vital aspect of bringing up children: personal adjustment. To relate well to children, adults must be comfortable with themselves. By treating yourself well, you will avoid the feeling of being mistreated or over-burdened when times are rough.
There are two lasting gifts we can give our children. One is roots; the other is wings. If you can give your children the foundation of love and the freedom to soar, you will have provided the best upbringing they could ever hope to have.